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Friday, 3 July 2015

BODY CONFIDENCE: GETTING NAKED ON THE INTERNET A YEAR ON.

Today is my birthday. The day I turn 26.

And this time last year my life completely changed.

I got naked, had a photo shoot and shared the images on the internet.

In the hope that maybe I could shake the self-doubt I'd carried for years. I explained how I’d struggled with body confidence my whole adult life, that getting fully naked in front of anyone, especially a man, was absolutely never going to happen. That I battled to keep weight on, not for lack of trying - and constantly felt self-conscious because of it. That I felt ugly and ashamed of my body. That I was bullied when I was younger, called anorexic and bulimic – why did people think it was okay to ask me things like: ‘are you a boy?’ ‘where are your boobs?’. And that finally, that photo shoot? Was the start of a new, much happier chapter of my life.

Sharing the photos on here was the final part of the process and I was totally overwhelmed with how incredibly supportive every single person was. Sharing something so personal with anyone, let alone the internet is seriously scary – and the fact that not one person said anything negative made me so happy. For one reason only - it meant people agreed with what I was trying to say:

We only get one body and we’ve simply got to love it. No matter our personal qualms with it.

I received floods of emails with thank-you's and a few readers went on to do their own shoots with Alex too, which is seriously amazing.

Doing another shoot with Alex a year later seemed like the best way to celebrate how far I’ve come with feeling comfortable in my own skin. I wanted to document the process and prove to myself that the original photos weren’t a temporary fix, they’ve totally changed how I feel about my body in a permanent way and I wanted to see if that showed in the images.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
Change your body confidence with Alexandra Cameron Photography. A lesson in feeling comfortable in the skin you're in.
WHAT I'M WEARING: Levi's Shirt Similar, Calvin Klein Briefs, Agent Provocateur Set in the SALE: Agent Provocateur Bra, Agent Provocateur Knickers, Agent Provocateur Suspender Belt. Stockings Similar

I remember doing the first shoot and thinking the entire time ‘HOW DO I EVEN MOVE MY BODY?’ But back then, the point was that I was doing it to accept myself, feel comfortable and now I have, now I do, I feel like I could take on anything.

It’s not about being obviously sexy. It’s about being able to put on your favourite set of lingerie and feel wonderful, because when you feel good it shows. It’s forgetting that your boobs aren’t more than a handful, that your tummy has that pouch that droops when you sit on your side. That your birthmark can sometimes look like you've wiped your bum in the worst way and have poo on your leg (that's not the case, btw).

It's remembering that we are what we feel.

And that means we can be whatever we want to be.

We don’t have to be perfect - whatever that is. Heck, doing this doesn’t mean I now think I’m the hottest piece of ass that ever lived. I still wish things were a little different. But the difference is I’m now at peace with those hang ups. I feel comfortable. In control.

Happy.

Like I can be sexy, maybe? And that maybe other people could look at me and think that too.

And that?

Is the best feeling in the world.

When I look at both sets of photographs I can see the emotions I felt playing on my face.

The first (see here) are vulnerable, scared to shit, but in the best possible way. Because I realise I’m actually doing it, I’m really getting naked and I’m not feeling horrific about it. A weird mixture of adrenalin, anxiety, pride and happiness.

The second: guys I felt so strong. Those nerves were still there, because ‘HELLO it’s been a year since I got naked on a camera and that’s still a huge deal’, but as soon as Alex started snapping away I felt myself melt in to the mattress with a sense of calm. I wasn’t worried, it felt fluid and liberating and exciting.

I’ve tried to explain to everyone I know what a huge difference this experience made to my life last year but it doesn’t matter what you say – you can’t really know until you try it yourself. But I do think these photos are a great way to show that my confidence just keeps growing, that it gave me the balls to walk away from toxic things in my life, start fresh with people who really care about me, to feel comfortable getting naked, to see myself in a different way, to not feel self-conscious when I’m getting changed in front of my girls or having sex at times that aren’t just pitch black under the covers. And it’s not all about the nakedness either, it’s how it’s adjusted my mind-set, made me feel more capable. I've made new friends, found myself in a new relationship with someone seriously incredible, quit my job to go travelling and then try my hand at blogging full-time - and a big part of that new found confidence is down to that shoot. It's given me self-belief and determination to not let myself or anyone else change my mind.

So here we are, then. A year on.

And I feel as great now as I did on July 3rd last year, reading all your kind comments.

Conclusion: 

What I’ve got is alright. I can live with my body.

And more than that, I can be happy with it.

Thank you Alex, for being such a wonderful friend and turning my life around - I love you.

And thank you to you, your lovely face reading this - because you are always so amazing, whether you realise it or not.

So, if you want to experience just how truly wonderful this journey is, and witness Alex's talents first hand, you can find all her details here. And if you tell her I sent you, you'll get a lovely 10% off your first shoot (cause she's kind like that).

A thing to remember: WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL.
(yeah even you ;-))


Tuesday, 23 June 2015

I'M GOING TO AMERICA! #WonderfulYouTravels


Travel Blogger Wonderful You shares her next trip. Travelling America and finishing in Hawaii.
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On July 25th I jet off to America for a month of travelling.

GUYS I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW EXCITED I AM.

I've never been to America before and have always said, 'One day I'll go to all the places' knowing full well I'd probably never have the balls or the money or the right someone to do it with.

How things change.

I seem to have grown a pair of some serious metaphorical balls over the past couple of months and have decided: If I want to achieve something, then what's stopping me? I have the ability to make this life the one I've always wanted. So that's what I'm going to do.

I guess I kind of believe in myself, now.

And with that being said, my good friend Nicola and I booked our trip of a lifetime and I'm so ready for it.

We met up one evening after work and made our own itinerary, a list of our dream destinations. We did a little bit of research on booking it independently, but quickly made the decision to drop in at a travel shop, just to see what they could offer.
We were prepared for our ultimate trip to be way out of budget, but surprisingly, it came in under what we'd both allowed for. Yeah, I nearly wet myself right there and then.

So where are we going, you ask?
New York - 3 days
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Niagara Falls - 1 day
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Las Vegas - 2 days
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Grand Canyon
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San Francisco - 2 days
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LA - 3 days
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Hawaii - 1 week

Booking it through the Holiday Hypermarket meant we could tailor our package to include for exactly what we wanted. I know a lot of people book on to a coach or camping tour through somewhere like STA travel, which is amazing - but Nic and I felt that we wanted to do this particular trip just the two of us, go with the flow, experience it in our own way.
Holiday Hypermarket arranged our trip through a company called Hayes & Jarvis and the package we created cost just over £3,000 each and included, flights, internal flights to each destination, transfers and hotels. It's a lot of money, but actually a lot less than what I thought it would cost to do all of the above!

So, now we just need to book our excursions for all of the places we're visiting. Having never been to America before, I'm going in a little blind. If any of you have any tips on what to do, who to book excursions through and any good places to eat etc. that would be amazing :-)

The countdown is ON.

Saying I feel happy right now doesn't quite cut it.

I frickin' LOVE the second half of 2015.

Keep up to date with my travel snaps on instagram using hashtag #WonderfulYouTravels


Thursday, 18 June 2015

MY NATURAL BEAUTY ENHANCERS | LET YOUR EYES SPARKLE AND SHIMMER WITH 1-DAY ACUVUE® DEFINE™


A natural beauty enhancer from Acuvue. Let your eyes sparkle and shimmer with 1-day acuvue define lenses.

My go-to make-up at the moment is super simplistic and natural. Made up of four favourites from my beauty stash, together these products create an effortless, simplistic look that’s suitable for daily wear.

Kicking it off with the YSL Touch√© √©clat foundation, it gives the most natural, healthy glow with a smooth and even finish – think your skin but better. It’s so beautiful to apply that it’s even okay to pop it on with your fingers, it just melts in to the skin and leaves you looking glowing and fresh faced. The Charlotte Tilbury Colour Chameleon eye crayon hasn’t left my eyes since I purchased it. The creamy pigmented texture glides over my lids like a dream and the staying power is incredible. For my lips I’ve been reaching for Charlotte Tilbury’s Pillow Talk Lip Cheat; it’s meant to be a lip liner but I use it all over the lips as it gives such a natural finish and stays put all day. It can be a little drying so I’ll pop a little lip balm over the top throughout the day to keep my lips hydrated. Lastly and the newest addition to my beauty bag, is the 1-DAY ACUVUE® DEFINE™, beauty enhancing contact lenses. And I could almost explode with excitement, because basically I have found true love.

Yes, in the form of contact lenses.
A natural beauty enhancer from Acuvue. Let your eyes sparkle and shimmer with 1-day acuvue define lenses.
A natural beauty enhancer from Acuvue. Let your eyes sparkle and shimmer with 1-day acuvue define lenses.
Honestly? I’ve always quite liked wearing my glasses and haven’t explored the option of contact lenses until now. But Acuvue have created something so magical that I can simply slip in to my daily routine with no fuss but that has a huge impact on my overall look.

In short, these lenses have been created to enhance the natural beauty of your eyes. They’re designed to provide a more defined limbal ring (the edge around the coloured part of the eye) which will create a stronger contrast to the white part. This will ultimately result in fresher looking eyes that look more awake, but that also give the illusion of your iris looking bigger.

You might be able to see from the picture above that the lens also has an iris-inspired pattern which works to blend with your naked eye, not masking it like other contact lenses can do. Now of course, every eye is different and completely unique, so individually we will all have a different experience and look.

Above is a before and after, using the Natural Shimmer lenses - I mean, need I say more? HOW MUCH BETTER DO MY EYES LOOK GUYS? It just brings my whole face to life, my eyes look so much more intense, bigger and brighter. BASICALLY THIS IS REAL LOVE.

The best part of these lenses is that it's not just purely aesthetic benefits you're getting. They're prescription too, so not only are they enhancing your eyes but they're doing the job they need to help you see at the same time. You can get them in two designs, Natural Shimmer (which I personally love for darker eye colours) and Natural Sparkle (which helps to brighten, and looks mega on blue eyes in my opinion). You can pick whichever one takes your fancy though and if you’re green eyed like me you can certainly pull off both for two totally different looks.
A natural beauty enhancer from Acuvue. Let your eyes sparkle and shimmer with 1-day acuvue define lenses.
Here's a snap of the finished look, with me be all posy.

NEW 1-DAY JOHNSON & JOHNSON ACUVUE® DEFINE™ to enhance the natural beauty of your eyes.
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Inspired by the beauty of the natural eye, the lens combines a dark ring around the coloured portion of your eye with a luminous-effect pattern, resulting in a brighter, more memorable you. Choose from one of two designs to suit your eye colour. NATURAL SHIMMER™ for more depth and intensity or NATURAL SPARKLE™ to add a luminous brightening effect.

If you like the look of these and want to give them a whirl then you’re in luck guys, because Acuvue are currently offering a free trial that you can register for online. Just click here to get started. If you pick some up, make sure you share any snaps using the hashtag #AcuvueDefineBeauty.

What are your thoughts? I mean, the love for me is real - I’m still looking at myself in the mirror…(#sorrynotsorry).

   Disclosure: Compensation was provided by Johnson & Johnson Acuvue via Mode Media. The opinions expressed herein are those of the author and are not indicative of the opinions or positions of Johnson & Johnson Acuvue.


Friday, 12 June 2015

MONOCHROME MADNESS WITH MISSGUIDED

Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Fashion Blogger Wonderful You wears Missguided Black and White short dungarees
Dungarees Missguided. Glasses: Topshop. Boots: Daniel Footwear. Top: River Island (similar here). Watch: Daniel Wellington. Rings: Jana Reinhardt. Belt & Necklace: Vintage. Photos by Hayley.
Missguided keep pulling out the stops for our wardrobes this summer and dungarees aren't an exception.

WHAT EVEN ARE THESE?

Perfection that's what.

Monochrome, soft as silk and high-waisted.

I don't have anything else to say. They are just too good.

Shop the look here:




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