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Wednesday, 21 January 2015

Just Say Yes | I'm Going to Bali

A blog post on leaning in to your fears. Doing things that scare you and learning to love yourself before others. Just Say Yes.
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The conversation went like this:

Laura: Late Feb/early March...£514. That is all xo

Me: OKAY.

And it was decided. I was going to Bali.

I'd been in a relationship for 7/8 years and I just wanted to be with him, you know? I didn't want to see the world with anyone else. I was happy to exist in our bubble and if we were together nothing else mattered.

And then it was gone.

Just like that.

I was alone.

Facing the world and having absolutely no idea where my place was in it, without him.

Laura emailed: 'You could do worse than escaping to Bali, Megs'.

And she was right. Because that's exactly what it is: escaping - and I'm not ashamed to admit it.

I want to run away from my problems - so what? Yes they'll still be here when I get back etc. etc.

But I'm taking 2015 as my opportunity to say yes. Look at the world with a fresh pair of eyes. With the people who understand.

Just say YES.


Because: life. It passes us by and half the time our eyes aren't even open to the beauty. I believe in fate but I also believe in hard work. On paper I hated 2014 with all of my being and now I have a hunger, to make 2015 completely different.
Of course, for many people simply taking a little trip to Bali is no big deal - but it's something I would've said no to last year. I would've seen it as simply something great for someone else to do.I mean, I definitely wouldn't have wanted to be away from my partner for more time than absolutely necessary - and flying halfway across the world, on my own? No thanks.

Not now.

I'm going to lean in to my fears, take the opportunities that scare me and run with them. Learn to trust that putting myself first isn't such a bad thing and that maybe if I do? I'll be a better friend, lover, companion...you know - just be better at being me. Not the best possible version, but better. That's achievable.

So, Bali. I'll see you soon.

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”- John Lennon


Monday, 19 January 2015

She Thinks She's 60's

A personal style blog post wearing Olive Clothing, ASOS, Topshop and She Inside.
A personal style blog post wearing Olive Clothing, ASOS, Topshop and She Inside.
A personal style blog post wearing Olive Clothing, ASOS, Topshop and She Inside.
A personal style blog post wearing Olive Clothing, ASOS, Topshop and She Inside.
A personal style blog post wearing Olive Clothing, ASOS, Topshop and She Inside.
A personal style blog post wearing Olive Clothing, ASOS, Topshop and She Inside.
Top: Topshop. Necklace & Belt: Vintage. Skirt: Olive Clothing. Coat: SheInside. Socks: Topshop. Boots: ASOS.

There's something so wonderful in being able to reinvent yourself. We all have our comfort zones, our go-to wardrobe staples but ultimately, fashion allows you to be a different person every single day and it’s the reason I love it so much.

I’ve been living in leggings for the past year but just lately I’ve found myself falling in love with skirts. This colour block, a-line bad boy from Olive Clothing ticks all the boxes. Suede panels, an everyday wearable length and poppers to fasten? Bellissimo.

Another cheeky steal from SheInside’s endless supply of affordable goodness is this wool blend style coat. With an over sized body and fitted arms it’s a flattering fit and I love the off cream colour. In last week’s post, a few ladies mentioned how much they loved the site but that delivery took a while. And I can’t tell you porky-pies, when you place an order you will be waiting a wee while for it to arrive at your door. But, that being said it’s certainly worth the wait. With affordable shipping and items for half the price of the high-street, I mean you can’t really complain can you? It might not be your one stop shop for next day delivery, but it will provide some steal deals and leave your bank balance happy.

And FYI - Glitter socks make me happy.

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Friday, 16 January 2015

The Reason She's a Slut by Laura Jane Williams

A reflection on Laura Jane Williams piece from Thought Catalog. On Slut Shaming and why it's not okay.
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Sex. It's a topic that will prick up one's ears. It'll grab your attention, for one reason or another.

If you read this blog, you'll know who Laura is. My friend, she's part of my tribe: the place she holds in my heart is huge. She's writing for Thought Catalog at the moment, with similar topics she covers on her blog. And this week, she wrote about being a slut.

You can read the article here - where she tells her story in a condensed version. Of how a boy broke her heart and how she was the only one left to pick up the pieces. Because that's how it works. You're together and then? You're alone.

And yeah, you have your friends and your family - but we all know that's not the same. Let's not pretend.

Having our heart broken, it's not something we can ever be prepared for. And there is absolutely no right way of coming back from the dark road it leads you down. We all do it differently, we cope, the best we can and we make mistakes - but most of all? We learn.

About who we're going to be and who we're not.

Most of us aren't born loving ourselves inside and out, it's something we earn for ourselves. Self respect and self worth is built on us learning how to get there - and being brave enough to say: 'this is how I did it'. No matter the journey we took. No-one said it was easy and no-one said how to do it. This all takes courage.

Being newly single, I'm finding it hard to find my feet. I'll wake up one day feeling on top of the world and the next I'll be crying myself to sleep. And it's for this exact reason, that people like Laura make times like these a little easier to bear.

I mean, the thought of being my true self with another man, the way I was with him? It makes me shudder. And when Laura says:

'She’s a slut because she needs to feel wanted. Desired. Sexual. She needs to remind herself that she can. That there are other men out there. But she doesn’t want you to love her. To call. To treat her with any semblance of respect. She doesn’t respect herself because how can she? What is she worth, when the one she gave it all to left so easily, and for somebody else?'

I understand.

I haven't been down that road. I haven't let myself fall, and I'm not talking about being in love. I've been stood on the edge of a cliff for months, second guessing myself. Am I attractive to other people? Am I worth their time? Let alone a space in their bed for the night. I manifest my insecurities in other ways, that I'll work out eventually, too.

We slut shame, but what for?

Everyone's story is different. And labeling a woman a slut for choosing to find herself through having sex that isn't about being in love feels so close minded to me.

We have our journey's, we choose our paths and that's the beauty of it all.

Sometimes it takes a while to realise that it's only us who can save ourselves from what we believe to be true.

When you thought you had everything and it turned out to be something completely different - it crushes you, cripples your ability to love openly and freely. Why should you let someone in, show them the real you, when your only memory is pain from how tragically it ended. That takes time.

Laura's piece has caused a heap of controversy - for obvious reasons. Some of the comments are so cruel. But I hope what most people take from it is that this is one journey, not everyone's. It's this path that's made Laura who she is right now - a woman with more self-worth, confidence and fire for life than I see in most people. She took her path, she got from it what she needed to heal and she learned from it.

You're quick to call a woman a slut. Because you think you know.

But really, you don't know much, until you know the story.

Wednesday, 14 January 2015

Black and White Life

A personal style fashion blog featuring stripes from She Inside and Ridley jeans from ASOS
A personal style fashion blog featuring stripes from She Inside and Ridley jeans from ASOS
A personal style fashion blog featuring stripes from She Inside and Ridley jeans from ASOS
A personal style fashion blog featuring stripes from She Inside and Ridley jeans from ASOS
A personal style fashion blog featuring stripes from She Inside and Ridley jeans from ASOS
A personal style fashion blog featuring stripes from She Inside and Ridley jeans from ASOS
Blouse: She Inside. Jeans: ASOS. Boots: ASOS. Necklace & Belt: Vintage. Fedora: Urban Outfitters. Watch: Olivia Burton
Oh look who it is. And the first outfit post of 2015, too. I know, it’s all a little bit TOO exciting isn’t it?

I haven’t worn my Fedora since I cut off my locks – it had hidden itself away under the seat of my car and on my annual tidy, I found it. So you’ll probably be seeing more of that around these parts.

Sheinside is a recent discovery for me and I have to say I’m pretty bowled over by the whole e-meet. They manage to encapsulate the chicness of Zara and Cos with the high-street feel of Topshop and ASOS and for not even a quarter of the price. This blouse pretty much makes all my dreams come true. I mean, who doesn’t love a good stripe? And with a plunging neckline it can easily be dressed up or down with a little slip underneath for a more suitable, daytime look.

I’ve been living in my Ridley jeans from ASOS. I usually only wear leggings, because I find jeans tend to give at the knees after a few wears – but when you don’t have any knees to give? Well, winner winner chicken dinner. They hold their shape amazingly, don’t go baggy on the bottom and the colour seems to be washing well too – not bad for £35.

Shop my look here:



Monday, 12 January 2015

Behind The Scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography's GIANT Series

Today's been a difficult day. We all have them don't we? The ones where putting one foot in-front of the other and representing a smile that's as transparent as light seems about all you can really manage.

When I feel like this, I try to focus on the positive periods I've experienced recently. So, here goes.

It’s no secret that Alexandra Cameron is one of my favourite gal pals. She was a massive part of my 2014 and I’m so excited to experience more wonderful adventures with her this year.

If you’ve been reading you’ll know that she’s a pretty kick ass photographer and late last year we worked together on an image for her GIANT series. It’s one of many fantastic creations up Alex’s sleeve, where she creates and builds giant props (with the help of her awesome fella, Will) and incorporates them in to an otherwise simplistic, ‘normal’ shot. This was the image from the one we created together:
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
I thought it might be quite fun to share some behind the scenes shots from the day. I'm no model, but helping Alex achieve a vision and getting to go through the process with some amazing people was such a wonderful experience.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
A blog post behind the scenes on Alexandra Cameron Photography GIANT series shoot.
From a blogger, who simply picks up her camera and experiments, it's really quite incredible to see all the hard work and effort that goes in to putting together a shoot.

Alex spent time picking the right spot in the forest, trying to decide where the light would work best, and how long we'd have it for. Will built the swing, which was over 7ft long and suspending it between two trees was no easy feat. But with some super heavy bundles of rope and topnotch tree climbing skills later, the boys did it. Alex's wonderful friend and florist Claire, met us in the forest to finish my outfit off with the most stunning floral crown. And whilst the guys secured the swing, Claire worked her magic to create some beautiful floral hanging arrangements. She wrapped them around the ropes with hundreds of flowers she'd lugged through the fields from her van - and what a lovely and talented lady she is.

IT WAS FREEZING GUYZ and my dress didn't do up or even slightly fit, I spent most of my time in between shots squirming like a little salmon trying not to flash Alex - I'm sure it was a very pretty sight ;)

But really? I had the most incredible day. Alex has built herself the most supportive, loveliest, caring friendship-family anyone could ask for. And the fact that I've been able to share some of that love? I'm so, truly grateful.

FIND ALEX:

Thanks so much, Al. For having me on your shoot and for being such a wonderful friend and making even the darkest of days seem possible. I love you.


Monday, 5 January 2015

Other Women Aren't The Competition | Superlatively Wonderful


A lifestyle blog and video on how other women aren't the competition
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Oh hello there strangers.

Yeah, blogging took a backseat this Christmas. It was a strange period for me, everything was different (see here) and my mind just wasn’t in it. I needed some me time and writing stuff down just didn’t seem appealing. Not that you asked for an explanation, but you know, manners.

Now here I am, and what better way to start 2015 than with two of my favourite blogging ladies. Emma and Laura: for the next episode of Superlatively Wonderful.

Other women aren’t the competition. 

And ain’t that so goddamn hard for us to accept?

We’ve all wasted energy on being that girl – the one who isn’t so secretly jealous of her friends OR her enemies.

Ladies, let’s get one thing straight here. Jealousy: It isn’t attractive, it doesn’t help you get further and it doesn’t help you make friends. It’s really frickin’ ugly, actually.

Her success is not your failure, her destination isn’t your own. tweet this

We can all get there, and guess what? It’s so much easier when we’re all just a little bit more supportive of one another.

It's all a bit cliche isn't it, sisterhood. But that's what it boils down to, just having a little bit more respect for one another and learning from her successes rather than being boringly bitter.

Laura, Emma and I have a bit of a cheerleading session in this weeks video... and discuss why 2015 will be so much more kickass with a little less hating.
We'd love to know what you think, send us a tweet using the hashtag #SuperlativelyWonderful to spread a little love!

Thursday, 18 December 2014

Go Hard or Go Home | Missguided Christmas Party Inspiration Part 2

A personal style post on Missguided Go Hard or Go Home Christmas Party Inspiration
A personal style post on Missguided Go Hard or Go Home Christmas Party Inspiration
A personal style post on Missguided Go Hard or Go Home Christmas Party Inspiration
A personal style post on Missguided Go Hard or Go Home Christmas Party Inspiration
A personal style post on Missguided Go Hard or Go Home Christmas Party Inspiration
Dress, Boots, Coat - All Missguided. Necklace: Muru Jewellery.
Did you catch my Christmas Party Go Hard post with Missguided at the beginning of December? Where I whittled on about how at this time of year, you’re either a proper party animal or a bed-at-9pm grandma?

I quite enjoyed getting myself spruced up to Go Hard. But today? It’s time to Go Home.

I have to admit I'm way more of a home bird - PJs would be my entire wardrobe if it didn't make me look completely moronic - so when it comes to actually having to get dressed and face the world, comfy is always going to take top priority. Sorry heels, but we're just not meant to be.

Keeping it festive with the softest, cosiest red coat (and pockets big enough to give Paddington bear envy) - it's the sort of cosy where you just want to stroke yourself repeatedly. Which I'm absolutely fine with, by the way.

Paired with these boots. Out of all the pairs I own, they have to be up there with the best value for money. At under £40 they look double the price and the fabric wears really well - no scuffing or going out of shape. And the heel is also the perfect size to be able to wear them day to night.

And finally, the dress. Swing dresses are a staple, but this one absolutely kills it. The fabric is thin and soft as a babies bum. It keeps me super toasty and has just the right amount of stretchiness to not feel restricting on the neck - no-one wants a tight turtle neck, guys.

Basically, I'll pretty much be wearing this outfit every day until Summer.

So - what about you? Do you Go Hard, or Go Home?

Ooh, also, there are lots of other colours of the coat,available here in the SALE!

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